Yes we have spoken on this topic before but I felt the need to come back and speak on it again
From a different standpoint. Let’s talk about forgiving those people that hurt you that don’t know or don’t care enough to apologize, let’s speak on the hurt and pain of betrayal. Even Jesus felt hurt from his closest of friends Judas betrayed him with a kiss.
So how do we deal with individuals that hurt us?
The first step is to have compassion for that person. Yes in order to move forward from the hurt and disappointment you must try to see life from their perspective. What motivates people to do the things they do. It’s safe to say the people that hurt you the most are suffering from some type of internal battle; as the saying goes: Hurt people, Hurt people.
Once you begin to see that individuals are fighting their own struggle the next step would be to remember how truly blessed and favored you are by God. Sometimes the person that hurts you may just feel inadequate or want something you have. Even if it is simply internal peace. You may not think you have much but sit back and really think about where you came from. Often times, we start to internalize the hurt and pain we might feel from other people and it distracts us, we go over in our heads how we can get back at them, not speaking to them or how to hurt them back (the hurt cycle continues).
I too have been caught up in the throes of unforgiveness, waiting on apologies I will never receive, preparing on what I would say or do at our next encounter. That sinking feeling in your chest. Waking up with ill feelings instead of thanking or father for another day. I had to recognize that at the very least this is an attack from the enemy. This distraction will not only block your blessings, but consume your time and energy where it could be put to better use. Mark 11:25 ”
Here’s another valid point; how many times have you hurt others both intentionally and unintentionally. And how many times have you done things you weren’t proud of. How many times have we asked for forgiveness for the things we have done to our heavenly father. “Who is a God like you, who pardons sin and forgiveness the transgression of the remnant of his inheritance? You do not say angry forever but delight to show mercy. You will again have compassion on us; you will tread our sins underfoot and hurl all our iniquities into the depths of the sea.” Micah 7:18-19
Even still we are forgiven time and time again. And when you stand praying if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them so that your Father in heaven may forgive your sins” It feels so much better to just let the pain go and allow God to handle each situation. Remember to stay on task and keep moving forward no matter what. You cannot put a price on peace of mind so do yourself a favor and let go of that pain and hurt.
Your heart will thank you for it.
Somebody ought to tell him thanks